Going to a restaurant should be a pleasant experience. We want to greet you with a smile, have a pleasant conversation and taste delicious food. It’s like a perfect night, isn’t it? Well, sometimes things don’t go as planned and even a minor accident can seriously ruin our mood.
One of the most frustrating things that can happen is ordering one dish and receiving another. Recent Reddit Users ancient abs I wrote a post on the Two X Chromosomes subreddit about how the waiter confused the order. Of course, we can understand that honest mistakes cause such accidents. However, if the server deliberately chooses to change the order, that’s a completely different story.
It seems that the male waiter brought the wrong food because he decided to count the calories for the customer and “protect” the female body shape. As you can guess, this experience was not good for users. Read the full story.
Recently, Reddit user Ancient-Abs shared a nasty post about how a male waiter decided to change her order to “protect” her from calories.
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Later the author added some updates to the story.
The male waiter thought he was thoughtful, but intentionally changing food can have unfortunate consequences. Some netizens made the nominal decision as to what would have happened if the customer had been allergic to chicken, with one user saying, “If the calorie difference occurred, the server would have made the chicken even more embarrassing, and one user would have said, “The difference would have caused the calories.” will
The author’s post went viral quickly, garnering more than 26,000 likes and 2,000 comments in a matter of days. Ancient-Abs added an edit to her post, saying that she had received many messages from men who did not believe the story was true. “I don’t believe women are raped,” she wrote. Well, it seems 81% of women I have experienced some form of sexual harassment in my life.
An online survey launched by Stop Street Harassment found that more than three in four women had to deal with verbal harassment, such as receiving a cat call or receiving unwanted comments about their appearance. “These findings show that this is a pervasive problem and pervasive in all areas of our lives,” Holly Kearl, lead author of the report, told NPR. “Most people who say they have experienced sexual harassment have experienced it in several places,” she said.
For men to say unwanted things to women or to think they can replace women is a way of manipulating women and maintaining power. Dr. Jesse Matthews, a licensed clinical psychologist, said in a previous interview that men who exhibit extreme versions of masculine traits such as strength, courage and independence “often have negative views of women’s rights.”
“Since men have traditionally held more power, they can see this as the natural order of things and unwillingness to give up. Women’s rights are about being treated on an equal footing with men, and only men who believe they deserve power over women will resist.”
Luckily, some men support healthy masculinity. Licensed psychologists have explained that they actually have most of the same characteristics, but only in moderate amounts. “A man of healthy masculinity can be strong, independent, and assertive, but he can do these things without ignoring others or seeking power. He can be successful in whatever his goals are, but he can still take care of others, seek support or ask for help when needed, help others or work collaboratively with them.”
Stories like this are a reminder that sexism is still alive and well, and it’s important to engage in those discussions and work together for a more equal world. We hope that people learn to think more carefully before engaging in potentially offensive behavior, and that more women remember that it is always important to defend themselves and share their experiences with others.
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