Woman banned from mother-in-law’s house by hanging a picture frame of her son and ex-wife’s wedding
Marriage is not simply a partnership between two people and mutually agreed commitments and boundaries. For better or worse, their families are also involved in the mix. And from Reddit users of u/alt_account_ad The case is definitely the latter.
a few days ago she submitted her story as ‘Am I The A***ole?‘ Through the community, she asks if she has overreacted after experiencing a conflict with her mother-in-law.
It all started when the two helped her and her husband settle into their new home. The wife felt that her own words were also influential there, so she “invited” another man, her son’s ex-husband, and hung a picture of her herself on the wall.
As you can imagine, the situation quickly collapsed, growing into a much larger problem involving multiple people. But surprisingly, the author of the post still lacks (moral) support.
Keep scrolling to check out her version of what happened, and let us know in the comments if you think she’s blown things up inappropriately.
A 31-year-old woman had a quarrel with her mother-in-law over her ex-husband.
Image Credits: Antonio_Diaz (not real photo)
And she turned to the Internet to ask people if she was overreacting.
Robert Weiss, Ph.D., Ph.D., LCSW, Chief Clinical Officer, Seeking Integrity, is an adult intimacy disorder and thought Healthy vigilance doesn’t stop others. Instead, it’s about getting them in safely. “At the same time, they prevent us from encroaching on other people’s space in a way that violates their boundaries,” he explains. “Importantly, our boundaries should not be to control the behavior of others. Instead, our boundaries are about our own actions. We have the right to experience our own thoughts, our own feelings, and our own sense of reality. Others have the same rights.”
So the wife tells her daughter-in-law that her feelings are basically meaningless, obviously sounding outside her depth.
But why? Well, we’re not sure, but it could be unstable. Dr. Elizabeth Dorrance Hall, assistant professor of communications at Michigan State University and director of the Institute for Family Communication and Relations, says mother-in-law relationships are programmed to be somewhat tricky.
“Think of a man marrying a woman,” she said. Explanation. “Soon his wife gets a mother-in-law, and his mother gets a daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law relationship is new, but especially the mother-child relationship is changing during this time. The son has a new woman who assumes some of the roles and responsibilities of a mother. This shift in roles and responsibilities can be intimidating for his mother.”
The absence of the OP’s husband must have had more to do with the situation than initially seemed. “The interaction between his mother and his new wife revolves around him, at least initially. [so] Many people prefer to attend during interactions between new in-laws to monitor and facilitate conversations. Over time, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may develop into a single independent relationship, but are still connected because of the son. Researchers refer to the son as the key in this scenario. He’s the key because he’s holding the other two. The key is always in the mother-in-law relationship.”
Of course, if the family members have different values, they respect each other and can get along very well. Not just these. At least not yet.
Everyone behaviorally said that the woman’s behavior was completely inappropriate.